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Book Extract: HOW TO REMAIN
Happiness is in mind, not in objects
Nobody can make you happy except yourself
Money can give you every thing except happiness
Happiness can't be purchased. It can only be experienced
Fountain of happiness is inside you. Don't make futile
attempts to search it outside.
Even if you are made the king of the whole world and are
handed over all the possessions and objects of pleasures, there is no guarantee
that you will be happy.
Happiness is your intrinsic nature. It is only to be
discovered and not to be acquired from outside.
The origin of stress is in your mind. Without
understanding and controlling mind, it is impossible to eliminate stress.
Nobody can make you unhappy unless you allow others to
Happiness is your valuable treasure. Don't allow it to
be snatched by varying circumstances and petty matters of life.
Happiness is not an element. It is a state of mind.
The spirit in which you meet the problem of life
To seek happiness outside is like trying to lasso a
Happiness does not come from doing what we like to do
but from liking what we have to do.
Happiness is found in little things: a baby's smile, a
letter from a friend, the song of a bird, the sunlight in the window.
Happiness is like perfume, you can't spray it on others
without getting some on yourself.
Happiness grows out of harmonious relationships with
others, based on attitudes of good will, tolerance, understanding and love.
We are as happy as we make ourselves so.
Happiness comes upon you unaware while you are helping
others. Help thy brother's boat across, and lo! Thine own has reached the shore.
The best way to keep yourself happy is to ensure that
others are happy.
Tension is not an object or a thing or a situation. It
is our reaction towards a thing or a situation, which generates it.
Mental attitude is every thing in life.
Concentration: At that time, except the activity the whole world should be dead for us.
Tips to ensure happiness
Detachment and forgetfulness.
Reduce emotional involvement, take things easy: we should realise that no
difficulties or problems are permanent. They all will pass. Such is the law.
Everything is in a state of constant motion and change. Nothing is permanent and
Welcome difficulties and problems of life, they are for our good.
We can derive some benefit and learning from every problem or
difficulty of life and exploit it to our advantage. This is a wonderful law of
Everything, which happens to us in life, is for our good only. In
the apparently looking cruel and adverse circumstances is hidden the infinite
mercy of God.
God has placed you exactly where you deserve.
Once you play your present role successfully, you will be
automatically shifted to the next higher place.
There is a reason for everything, nothing happens by chance or accident.
Universe has a certain order and everything is bound by a
relationship of cause and effect. For every effect there is a cause.
World is neither good nor bad. It depends upon how we look at it.
Whatever is within us, it appears to us outside.
Silence, solitude and self-introspection
Don't have inferiority complex, what others can do, you also can do.
Hence never compare with others and neither feel inferior nor superior to any
Don't waste time.
Control over impulses. Observe self-restraint and patience.
Don't react immediately when disturbed. Under provocation, the reasoning
power of the mind gets destroyed.
Brooding over past and worrying for future. What matters most to you and
to the world right now is what you are at present and not what you were or what
you will be.
You are master of your destiny. You are hundred percent responsible for
what you are in your life.
Self-satisfaction before satisfaction of other. Many people live a life
style, which is primarily aimed at impressing and satisfying others. It is more
important for you as to what you think about yourselves than what others think.
Accept and recognize your weaknesses.
Don't fill your subconscious mind with all sorts of garbage.
Avoid making remarks/comments/advice to others unless asked.
Any preaching which you want to give for the benefit of others, it
is better to impart that from your behaviour rather than in the form of words.
Always remain optimistic.
Learn to say `No'.
If you want to become great and unique, you will have to be
different from the rest of the crowd.
Don't linger things.
Successful people are those who get up from their seat and take
immediate appropriate action. The right time for starting or doing an
appropriate thing is just now and not tomorrow.
Always remain near to God.
So long as you keep your hands in His hands, you are safe from all
miseries of the world.
A stage will come when you will be so intensely connected with God
that you will be knowing God and God only and you will be thinking, talking and
doing everything in terms of God.
There is nothing urgent or indispensable in this world.
There is nothing free of cost in this world.
Enjoy the work, not the fruits.
· As fruits are not in your hand and only in the hands of Almighty, you should never depend upon the fruits for your pleasure.
· You have done your duty and your part is over, you now go on to your next work.
Be flexible for adopting new changes and improvements. Every minute
changes are taking place. What we were one hour before, we are not now. Hence,
learn to respect changes and apply to cultivate them to your benefit instead of
Be also open to new ideas and suggestions.
Avoid greediness, everything belongs to God. You should be able to leave
any worldly possession at a moment's notice. Such should be your detachment
towards worldly things.
Small things are as important as big things. Your greatness is judged by
how you perform each and every small thing in your life and not by big things
Don't show fickle mindedness and madness in choosing or deciding some
The more you give, the more you get.
Avoid selfishness, expand your consciousness to include the whole world
as your family.
· You should be able to look upon other's problem as your own by placing yourself mentally in their position.
Reduce unnecessary worldly involvement.
Have a good company.
Always keep a smile on your face.
Reduce your expectations from others. Never expect anything from anybody.
Reduce collection of worldly things.
Problems are an integral part of life. They will never end. One problem
will go another will come.
· We are never given to bear more than our capacity and resources.
· Take it for granted that there will always be ups and downs and unexpected things in life. You have to be prepared for anything.
Give to the world more than what you take from it. Your life on earth
would be considered worth only when you can give to the world more than what you
have got from it.
Be above limitations of life.
Regulate your diet for your mental well being.
· One of the secrets for good health is to always remain slightly hungry.
Do regular exercises.
· Physical relaxation in turn leads to mental relaxation because body and mind are closely interlinked.
Include rest and relaxation phases in your routine.
Improve quality of your sleep.
Remain above diseases of the body.
Avoid fear of death.
Take initiative in setting things right.
· As an enlightened citizen, you must raise your voice against various disorders and injustice. It is your duty as well as right.
Change your self to change the world.
· Each person contributes to making the society or world as it is.
Don't take revenge for the ills done by others to you
Avoid suspicion/doubts, have faith
Be honest, truthful and righteous in your dealings.
There are pros and cons in everything of the world, world is dual in its
Depend only on God for help. To make yourself eligible for this help, the
only requirement is that you have to mentally feel yourself connected to God and
have total faith in His benevolence and protection.
Consider your children and children of God.
Choose appropriate colors.
Maintain good postures
Listen good soothing music.
Go close to nature whenever you find opportunity.
Maintain cleanliness and neatness in your surroundings.
Temperature, humidity and noise have an effect on your mind.
Install good photos and pictures.
Go on disposing off rubbish regularly.
Add humor and laughter in your routine.
Don't be too anxious to know your future.
Check your desires and craving for sensual enjoyment.
Don't indulge in mad race for money.
Never give the excuse that you don't have time. We all have plenty of
time if only we wish to do a thing.
Live and work in this world with the sole aim of your constant
Don't waste anything.
Don't be fussy over trifles.
Anger is a sign of weakness.
You are not indispensable for the world.
Don't advertise your problems/difficulties to others except when you
really need help from someone.
· Be strict for yourself but tolerant for the shortcomings and defect of others.
Don't fight over religions, all religions are good.
Don't try to be master of everything, be expert in one thing.
Take and give help freely.
Enjoy each moment of life.
You can learn from every body in the world.
Don't do or accept anything that is less than the best.
Observe courtesy and good mannerism.
Don't think or speak ill about anybody. We are all connected to each
· Each mind is connected with every other mind and all the minds in turn are connected with cosmic mind.
We can learn from every situation.
Be independent take your decisions.
Learn to appreciate others.
Be humble as you rise more and more.
Be grateful to God for every luxury and comfort of your life.
Don't always misunderstand others.
Let power come to you on its own.
External circumstances, on their own, can't create stress.
Don't make catastrophe out of unpleasant events of life.
Learn to give up and let go.
Don't get upset over rejection and disapproval.
Eliminate self-centeredness in your talking and dealings.
Don't lower down your level to the level of the person who is misbehaving
Avoid strain and perfectionism and idealism.
Learn to adjust and compromise.
Avoid the strain of impressing others.
Learn to change your thoughts quickly and consciously.
Continue to progress even in tragedies and misfortunes.
Don't have super normal expectations from your spouse.
Live one day at a time don't rush.
Reduce the velocity of your mind.
Does your conversation often end in irritation and heart burning?
Cope with one problem at a time.
Don't leave your mind idle. Keep always some goals before it.
Don't imagine problems and mishappenings in life, just face them as they
Don't stop your works when your mood is upset.
Avoid constant bickering and complaining.
Don't waste your energy in satisfying others.
Think less and do more.